Do You Support The Idea Of Celibacy Before Marriage?

So last Wednesday night, Twitter (Lagos) went berserk after a female tweep disclosed during #NHBi, that she had slept with a total of 13 men. Apparently, that’s what a ‘body count’ is.  As expected, (because sex is always an interesting topic), all hell was let loose with different opinions filling my timeline. While many condemned the lady in question for being flippant about her sexcapades, others brought out shields to protect her. At first, I thought to ignore the conversation but naaah…. I can’t. Media platforms are places where opinions are formed and reformed. All sides must be represented.   Many people may have their reasons for indulging in pre-marital or extramarital sex but… there are only two sides to a coin. Head or Tail!

Same way, you have good or bad. Right or wrong. These concepts are not gender based, or they shouldn’t be. As I thought of the best way to present my opinion, a part of the bible came to mind. Philippians 4: 8 “… You’ll do best by filling your minds and.meditating on things true, noble, authentic, compelling, gracious – the best, not the worst; the beautiful, not the ugly; things to praise, not things to curse…”. Although, this is found in the Holy Book for Christians, I seriously doubt that any religion, race, tribe, moral compass would discredit it. So, what is noble about sleeping with more (wo)men than you can remember? Nothing. What is praiseworthy about having many people know you in the most intimate way possible? My answer remains the same, nothing. As far as I know, no man or woman, past or present, was ever honoured or celebrated for the number of partners they had. Of all the world’s celebrated individuals, those who got caught in sexual immortality were disgraced… by those who didn’t. Interesting, isn’t it? I have a lot more to say… because I know some will ask about marriages which collapsed because the sex wasn’t great. Or, ……. bla bla bla. “I married her because the sex is great”, said no groom in history. I have never heard of a man or woman who married their partner simply because the sex was astronomical. As crazy as people get for sex, it’s usually always NOT reason enough to get married. People may marry for money, fame, “God said”, connection…. but, hardly for sex. Often times, great sex is a great incentive. That’s for some folks though…. So, if we realise that great sex is never the deciding factor for marriage… why do people dishonour themselves, while single. Without a doubt, I am pro-celibacy until marriage. However,  I agree that sex is important. It has to be…for God to say we should wait until marriage. When I say important, I mean – important for babymaking and important for the pleasure it brings. (Btw, I think a cock’s favourite pastime is sex… that’s why he will chase the hen to the ends of the earth for it. Lol) Back to what I was saying… many people say they engage in pre-marital sex so they can be experienced. Once upon a time, I foolishly expected my husband-to-be to be experienced, so that wedding night would be eventful. Now, I know better. If you gain all the eexperience in the world and still marry someone who’s not so great in bed, you are setting yourself up for frustration, infidelity,…. a broken home. (You may live under the same roof and still have a broken home). So… what’s the way forward for those who agree that sex is important but have chosen to do the right thing by waiting… Get creative! The desire for sex is natural… expressing yourself in that regard would also be natural. You don’t have to sleep around first and neither do you have to subscribe to pornography. Talk to your partner about sex… before marriage. I think people that are engaged should also talk about sex. What they think of it and what to make of it. If your man or woman has potential of being a wild cat…find out and get ready (Don’t have this discussion in a private place o. Don’t tempt yourselves). There are also books by Christian writers on sex. Try one of those. When you are married, you are legal… so feel free to explore and show your partner your wild side. Leave the speaking in tongues and bible quoting things and get down to freaky business. Lol. (My psstor must not see this). Anyway, this is what I think. That we choose to be children of light does not mean we cannot enjoy God’s gift to the fullest measure. Yes we can! One final word… SEX IS NOT A DIRTY THING. It is only dirty when you do it wrongly. What do you think?