Like mother like daughter

 

Dear Aunty Temilolu,

I was a proud virgin until last month when I missed my period and discovered I was pregnant. The shock was too much for me to handle as my boyfriend never went all the way but played with me and our bodies responded the way it would when two people engage in sexual intercourse. Certainly, a stray sperm got into me. I had to terminate the pregnancy though he didn’t tell me to. 

I terminated it majorly because I didn’t want to end up like my mother and grandmother. My mother had me that way and till today, she’s not married to my father or any man. Also, my maternal grandmother whom I presently live with never married my maternal grandfather as she also conceived my mother out of wedlock. I didn’t feel good committing an abortion but had to do it to save myself from future trouble. However, I can’t stop feeling bad. Please what do you think?

Tomilola, 21

My darling, precious, glorious, dignified, world-famous and heavenly celebrated Nigerian sisters,

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Hmmm…Sigh! Girls…girls…girls…how many times did I call you? Life is a lot much more than boyfriends, smooching, sex, dressing to kill, “talking eyes,” Brazilian hair, body shaper, buttock enlargement etc. You own yourself and have every right to do whatever pleases you with your body but too much concentration on your physical beauty to attract guys not only gets you into trouble unconsciously a lot of times but also distracts you from concentrating on your spiritual beauty and working out your destiny. Yes! If you love dressing to kill to get guys drooling over you, some day, you’ll fall into the hands of a guy that would kill your destiny. The devil is very clever and knows how to set traps for those who rely on their sense and sensibility to get what they want out of life instead of depending on God to sort them out. So many of you reading this are in serious trouble and not enjoying life today because of your parents’ ignorance and failure to sufficiently work on their destinies and marry the right person. Nevertheless, you are not a mistake. God knew you before you were formed in your mother’s womb and has fantastic plans for you; a much better life than that of your parents but expects you to work it out with fear and trembling.

Tomilola’s evil family pattern caught up with her and she decided to outsmart it by committing an abortion. I tell you, she would have been better off not terminating that pregnancy. Abortion is a sin of a great magnitude in the eyes of God because it entails the shedding of innocent blood and carries its consequences. I can only pray along with Tomilola that God who decides whom He’ll have mercy on would have mercy on her.

There’s someone reading this column who is afraid of getting married because her father turned her mother’s life upside down while another is turning out a termagant just like her mother who showed her father pepper and ended up marrying three men and having children for all three of them. If care is not taken, such a girl would end up marrying five men. There’s yet another reader who has lived an unstable life and experienced hell being sent to live from one cousin’s place to another because neither of her parents could fend for her. While there’s another who is suffering in the hands of a wicked step-mother or father being maltreated on a daily basis with no one to come to her rescue. While another’s destiny has been satanically diverted and she doesn’t know.

Girls, one of the ways the devil shuts your eyes from seeing pits that could redesign your life and make life most unenjoyable is the lust of the flesh/ungodly sex. It makes you spiritually dull and unable to follow the right path to your destiny. You have the power to subdue that flesh and see clearly. There’s time for everything! Okay? God bless you!

Dear fans of Girls Club,

Are you still engaging in pre-marital sex? Each act devalues you! Your wonders are waiting to start. God is waiting for you to become a Secondary virgin! You are most welcome on board the chastity campaign train and Girls Club is open for all girls and ladies. Please text your name, age, school or occupation and State of domicile to 07086620576.

The Girls Club of Nigeria is aimed at influencing a positive change in the female folk and re-orientating the Nigerian girl. Amongst other things, to promote and enhance the development of girls by instilling a sense of self-worth, competence, usefulness, belonging and influence while of course restoring traditional moral values and encouraging the girls to toe the paths of righteousness. If this generation can make amends, the next generation will come out clean. Don’t you think so? I love you all and I think you are all wonderful sisters!

For more inspiring articles and prayers against sexual perversion (masturbation, lesbianism, addiction to pornography and immoral thoughts etc.) prayers against ungodly soul-ties and prayers for recovery of virtues please visit my blog www.temiloluokeowo.wordpress.com

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Dear girls,

As designed by God, your virginity is the bedrock of your destiny. It is your spiritual beauty. It carries the star, potential and talent which God created with you to make you unique. It is the star in your sky. Please don’t pollute your destiny. The world is waiting for your star to shine! Your curiosity about sex and the way your body feels is normal. However, there’s so much you need to know which may eventually condition your mind and calm your desires. For now, DON’T dabble into it please.

FINAL WORD
Chastity does not belong to the past. It saves you a lot of trouble, preserves your beautiful destiny and stands you out from the crowd. You are better off not engaging in pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Stay chaste!